It is a willful breaking of that vow- a defiance of God. Also, He wants the same growth for your wife and the same fellowship with her. I'm a gay man, but I'm married to a woman and we've had kids together. The decision to remain in the closet is impacted more by the fear of loss rather than the prospect of potential gain. The only condition is that you allow Him to do so.
Judging by the emails, phone calls and website hits he receives, he estimates that there are thousands more Australians in similar situations.
‘Honey, I’ve got a secret’ : When gay men come out to their wives
Even though you have had this problem, you have experienced many of the joys and blessings of married life: It takes them years to get through feeling that they've ruined everyone's lives, including their own. Gay people think that you should come out and divorce, otherwise you are keeping a foot in heterosexual privilege. Remember, our relationship with God comes first. How serious is this one?
The Frustration of Sexual Infidelity Sexual infidelity is not the ultimate betrayal; the lies used to cover the offense are far more damaging. Without forgiveness, a couple may remain bound together through hatred—even if they separate and divorce. GAY men say they have sex with straight men quite frequently. Start by concentrating on these parts of your life and you will begin to see your sense of helplessness start to fade. For you to break off the relationship completely through separation and divorce is far more serious. Yet almost nothing has been written about men who have sex with men MSM. Because homosexual attractions will never go away, the number for MSM may be even higher.